When he is mad and she is mad

.. السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته ..اليوم اتكلم عن المشاعر مع الرجال والنساء  

       What a good start,, half an hour to check whether the sentence is right. I hope so. =) It just meant, Im talking about the feelings of men and women. Ok. I was just trying that out. Well. My topic is pretty general. Yeah, since i'm having myself adapting to teens life, looking for the right guy, so I guess I shall write about the emotions. It has been a while since I wrote seriously, I just hope I'm not gonna write craps. =) 

      When a woman gets angry and when a man gets angry, the situation is very different. Well, emotion is something we relate with our temper, mood and personality and not to mention hormones. So, due to some hormonal changes, woman just gets mood swings easily rather than guys- just acting cool.  This is what makes women and men so complement to each other. =) You know somehow, Allah has written everything by sequence for us, so that we can live smoothly. Yes, musibahs are things we really can't avoid from. So, when some random man and woman are having this fight, one has to be the 'water' to cool down the 'fire' which really isn't something easy to do but needs a lot of patience, tolerance, put the ego aside,  and to be considerate. To fight over small things are just not worth it. I realized (I just realized but I'm sure everybody have realized this since then) that fight gives you nothing in benefit. Zero. What you get is depressed. Also, we don't have all the time. We do never know our رزق . What if, na'uthubillah one of us are chosen to return to him. Will we not be regretting the time we should have spent together? Na'uthubillah.

       So speaking of that, all we need is a little optimistic attitude in ourselves, lower your ego level, or maybe recall how hard it took to get together with the friend. The most important thing is, when we are grateful and thankful to Allah, we have the inferiority in the eyes of Allah, insyaaAllah, things will just go smooth. Some people, they are given generosity, lovely heart, lovely lips so they persuade the other friend and such. But some are given mouth full of stone, stone hearted, not generous at all and just never persuades. o.O that is the problem na'uthubillah. So sometimes it is best to just practice istighfar - أستغفر الله العظيم - say it repeatedly, infinite loop yea...  =) I mean until u feel the calmness, until you have the gut to say sorry when u misunderstood ur friend. ;) InsyaaAllah that would be better.

       Or it should be the best to explain each other, to be honest and to be straight forward. =) and another thing is sabo je la~ ;) None of the friend should be specialized like "I'm the girl y must I apologize" or "I'm the guy so y must I apologize"..... In fact both should apologize even if the fault is only from one side. One whose fault is to make the mistake and another whose fault is to get sulky. o.O ouh dear. Throughout what I wrote, friend means the spouse. =D It's just spoiling my mood to write it because it's too mature thing to say. or even write. Geli . sorry, can't help it~

LOL. dah2. go persuade ur loved ones. 

I took this from facebook. love the gold lace. It'll sure look gorgeous and elegent. =)